A letter back from my Aunt about my brothers wedding

From my brain

I know I feel really bad about what has happened. But the fact is that you didn't grow up together with your brothers, and as sad as it is, you are not gonna have that bond. So I guess I am saying, I understand why you weren't in it. It makes a difference when you don't grow up in the same house. It's not that they don't love you, it's just that the "brotherly bond" isn't there. You have to get past this or else it is gonna eat you up the rest of your life. And you don't want that because of your kids and for your own well being. They need an extended family whether it's in Ohio or New York. You said about Uncle J getting remarried, but then again, we are all from the same mother and we grew up in the same house and it does make a difference. I mean when I got married, I had none of my brothers in the wedding. So they realistically should have been pissed at me, but they understood. And really during the planning of the wedding and being so young, you don't think about those kind of things. I regret that I didn't have them in my wedding because they are wonderful brothers. I would never shun you away. Just because our families don't always show physical affection toward each other, we all love each other very much including you and your family. Don't forget that. Just because you were excluded from the wedding party, doesn't mean you are excluded from our family. Don't feel that way. When planning a wedding you can't always include all the people you want to, which in the long run does cause people to get hurt. You cannot please eveyone.

I mean no matter what you are still a part of this family. I am hoping you guys can straighten this out somehow. You can't give up family. Maybe you should try and e-mail again and see if you get a response. I just feel bad. I didn't know what was going on until I got to Nana's house that Sunday. I know she felt bad. You know she is a very forgiving person. She isn't like that. She just felt bad because she wanted her whole family there. She really isn't the issue here. I'll take care of her and you need to focus on resolving this with J and your Dad. Sometimes you have to be the bigger person and just do it. There are alot of times I didn't want to give in to certain things and issues, but I figured I better be the bigger person and I am happy for it now. Life is too short to hold grudges. Keep in touch and keep me informed of what is happending.

Love ya, Aunt M.